tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post2271380847728395125..comments2023-03-17T02:18:53.315-07:00Comments on I'm Just Sayin'...: Life Altering DaysStacie http://www.blogger.com/profile/15060268656964760241noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-90631941461703762972011-11-02T19:12:51.861-07:002011-11-02T19:12:51.861-07:00Wow Stacy! I could have written so much of your p...Wow Stacy! I could have written so much of your post in regard to Caden (who is also 10). The last ten years have been pure He_ _ for mainly Trace and I (his victims of choice). Trace would ask me at bedtime with tears in his eyes if we could please do something to make him be nice. It broke my heart. We went the route of sensory integration when he was 4 and it helped a little. He had tubes twice and toncils and adenoids out - no help. Over the years I've counted, I think, 10 doctors/specialists we have seen. I talked to ANYONE who would listen and read everything I could get my hands on. I really know where you're at with this! I finally reached my breaking point and told the ped I was ready to look at medication. IT WAS HARD. There is nothing positive out there regarding kids and meds. What is out there makes you feel guilty. I've decided to ignore all of that and concentrate on my child. Since medicating, he is a new kid! We still have problems - definitely - but they are manageable. My stress level has dropped significantly and his self concept has gone up! We just talked the other night about how his first 10 years were really rough but that was only a tiny part of what will hopefully be a very long life. I told him I knew something wasn't right and that I was never going to give up until I found a doctor who would listen to us! We've had other talks much like you've had with Ben. I tell him that everyone has a burden to bear - some worse than others and he is no different in that sense. Last March I finally decided on yet another psyc to try and when I called it was a 3 month wait. I totally fell apart and didn't think we could make it that long. But we did and it was SO worth it - he is wonderful and the best part is that Caden loves him. He also gave us a diagnosis with in the first three visits. He was shocked that no one else had ever done so. Then he confirmed that the medication he is on was the best choice (prozac). I was not happy about it, but I trust him and I can see that it has worked.<br />Well, I've gone on waaaaay too long about us, but I just wanted you to know that I really, really know how you are feeling and what you are going through right now. Don't feel guilty for one second about doing what is best for your child! There are some kids who NEED it and ours do! Hang in there and let me know if you ever want to talk!<br /><br />CocoCocohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06510922431208053695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-38731824162843766252011-10-05T22:43:25.203-07:002011-10-05T22:43:25.203-07:00You know that I'm praying, too, my friend. So ...You know that I'm praying, too, my friend. So glad that you have some answers, and so very thankful that Ben is in the hands of Jehovah Rapha, our mighty, wise and loving Healer.Julianna Lawsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01532256832107537206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-80633572608892113992011-10-05T22:38:16.482-07:002011-10-05T22:38:16.482-07:00Thanks for sharing Stacie and I hope no one will d...Thanks for sharing Stacie and I hope no one will do or say anything negative. You have some great comments coming in so far. Very glad you have found some hope in the meds now. Sounds like it might just work! Will pray for all of you too.Laurie Enoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-53077527097720967372011-10-05T21:27:15.970-07:002011-10-05T21:27:15.970-07:00Stacie- so thankful that you have finally gotten a...Stacie- so thankful that you have finally gotten answers and validation that there is something that Ben needed help with.<br />Praying for you all and believing for great results!Sherinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-49282120825485658662011-10-05T21:24:05.897-07:002011-10-05T21:24:05.897-07:00Praying for you all! No judgment here...ever. :)...Praying for you all! No judgment here...ever. :) Love you guys! :)Deanna Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02166839798786837813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-54651065446376955272011-10-05T21:13:42.533-07:002011-10-05T21:13:42.533-07:00Ben is going to be fine. The true difference in hi...Ben is going to be fine. The true difference in his healing is not the pills but his Parents. You have open hearts and minds. You, Teddy and the girls will take his hand and walk together through this. We are with you.Tareyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13724708005818159779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-1185058723431480252011-10-05T17:08:25.216-07:002011-10-05T17:08:25.216-07:00I applaud your bravery. You are doing all you feel...I applaud your bravery. You are doing all you feel is best for Ben & that should be MORE than enough for anybody who truly cares about you. Sometimes we have to make a stand for our kids against people who should stand behind us- it sucks, for lack of a more eloquent word- but what other choice is there? Should Ben be traded in for an "easier" kid? Should you send him away to boarding school? How much "more" or "better" do you think you & Teddy could possibly do or be?! You guys would go to the moon & back for him! That's obvious to anyone who spends any kind of time w/ you at all! I'm sorry for the hurts you've carried. I'm happy for you that you have a direction. No, it won't make Ben the same as anybody else (who wants that anyway), but at least you guys now <br />have hope for him to be the best Ben he can be. Our family will pray for yours- because WE know that not all of our kids are "pleasing" to those around us, but they pleasing to the One who made them, and His opinion is really the only one that matters.Dihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08364103639995499347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-11430139117980500962011-10-05T15:37:58.263-07:002011-10-05T15:37:58.263-07:00((hugs)) I love you and I am so glad you found the...((hugs)) I love you and I am so glad you found the answers you have been searching for!Heidi =)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03050944024956869185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-46272981112765189962011-10-05T08:56:13.489-07:002011-10-05T08:56:13.489-07:00Proud of you. No parent likes to give a child pill...Proud of you. No parent likes to give a child pills. However, a chemical imbalance cannot be corrected by any amount of prayer, church, patience, or discipline. Be patient with the process though, it could take time to find the right med and dose. You all have suffered long enough. You have done the research, trust yourself. My heart is so happy for Ben. Finally, someone is helping him cope, truly seeing his reality, addressing the problem, instead of laying blame on mom and dad. Imagine what this will do for his confidence! I am hopeful Ben will start feeling more comfortable in his own skin soon. Great work Mom! You are advocating for your son, don't listen to the negative feedback of others. No one has walked in your shoes or Ben's for that matter. Will be thinking of you, keep posting updates!Dana condreynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-65463871578603745582011-10-05T08:34:22.913-07:002011-10-05T08:34:22.913-07:00Stacy! My heart is breaking for you and rejoicing ...Stacy! My heart is breaking for you and rejoicing for you, as news like this is earth-shattering. We know from up-close-and-personal experience the mixed up feelings you may be having right about now...fear for the future, RELIEF that you as a parent are not insane, there really is a reason, trepidation about medicating your child - what if it makes things worse? When my daughter was (finally) diagnosed with bipolar disorder, we ran the whole gambit of emotions, and still do some days. My prayers and good wishes are with you, my friend. Please know that if you ever just need to talk, I am here for you.<br />RickiRicki Rodrigueznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-31494208380324273932011-10-05T08:11:53.030-07:002011-10-05T08:11:53.030-07:00So glad you finally found answers! I know this has...So glad you finally found answers! I know this has been a long struggle for you guys and so answers are so amazing! Can't wait to see how this changes things. And I hope you told your ped doctor that he had missed it. Seriously frustrating. And Riley would love to hang with Ben sometime and talk Harry Potter. Hugs! Can't believe we haven't seen each other in so long! Praying for you guys!Val Hnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-59611004348724144052011-10-05T08:05:40.182-07:002011-10-05T08:05:40.182-07:00That's fantastic. The Number one, amazing thi...That's fantastic. The Number one, amazing thing, is that he will probably grow out of it. What a great thing to hear. And I commend you for getting him help. And if you try the meds and you don't like it then you try something else. If I thought it would truly help my child, and I'd tried everything else, I would try medication in a heart beat. And I'm definitly with you on thinking most dr.'s just want a quick fix. I've worked with children most of my life, and I've seen tons on meds, but only a very few who I've thought actually needed them. But with the symptoms you've described, it sounds like this could truly change his life, and that of your families. Last year I worked with a child who really struggled, and her parents, after every other effort, put her on meds. Let me tell you it was one of the most positive changes I have ever seen in a child and a family. <br /> Although your friends and family probably have your best interest at heart, they are not professionals. They repeat what they've read or heard, this diet, or that parenting technique, and there is nothing wrong with trying those things, but the only advice I would take is that of a true professional. Sounds like you've found one. Good luck.wakefieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17862076487874521740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1091281056764646460.post-8001539497203583062011-10-05T07:29:26.063-07:002011-10-05T07:29:26.063-07:00Oh, Stacie. You have certainly been through th pro...Oh, Stacie. You have certainly been through th proverbial ringer. :-( I truly hope that this is a step in the right direction and there can be improvement in your family. I know, all too well, the living hell, that one kid can bring to your family.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01744075123160109055noreply@blogger.com